The 15th of November - all alone? Find the perfect talker.

Hey there!

Now I sometimes, including today, I feel like I have no one to go to with my problems, no one who will listen and understand. Today I wanted to talk to Carol H about my quitting soccer, yes I quit soccer or took a break, because I don't feel like it's something I enjoy anymore, and i have a very bad confidence about the way I play and I actually also suck, so what's the point? I'm thinking I might start again if I find that I miss it, but we'll see. Anyways I wanted to talk to her about that, and about how I always feel like people don't like me as much as her and so on. But it ended with her talking about her problems with Matti and how she felt about that and all that. The thing is that I would love to hear about her problems and all that, but sometimes I just need to talk about ME!! And today was one of those days, but I just want her to ask about it and all that, and I guess she didn't sense me trying to get her to ask me about my feelings and so on. I should just tell her, but I don't want to be too annoying.

Anyways I just wanted to tell you how you can get one of those convos started, how to get to that subject and when to do it and whom to talk to.

So first how to get the convo started:
- You could text the person saying that you need to talk about something important.
- You can mention how you feel just quickly and then let them get it (don't try to give hints, cause some people won't get them and then you'll never get the convo started.
- You could tell the person that you have something to talk to them about, but it's hard for you to say. They will instantly ask you all about what it is and they are now interested in finding out.

Then how to get to that subject:
- Well if you have a conversation directly about you having a problem, then tell them and dive right into it!
- You can if they talk about they're problems, then you can say that you actually also have something you would love to talk about something that is really bothering you.

Then when to do it:
- do it when you have plenty of time.
- do it a place where you know no one is listening and where you feel safe.

And at last whom to do it with:
- do it with someone you know would never tell anyone your secrets.
- do it with someone you know will listen to what you have to say.
- and do it with someone you trust and who will understand you but still not get all the spotlight on them and start talking about they're problems right away.

Yeah and I will talk out to Carol, she just had a lot to talk about herself, and I think it was good for her to talk about it.

Love,
M.E<3